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A Son’s Eulogy for Julien Kim Ripley

My dad, Julien Kim Ripley, died on December 4th, 2011 at 1:12 a.m. It has been almost a year and not a day goes by that I do not think about him. In tribute, I decided to blog a eulogy.

Often when you see a headstone in a graveyard, it has the person's name and then their birth and death dates separated by a dash. To me, that seems to say that the person's life merely flashed by—a sprint—and not worthy of talking about. Well, Dad grabbed life by the horns and inspired others around him. His life was not just a dash. Quite the contrary ... Dad spent every moment of his life improving himself and others around him. He had a vast thirst for knowledge and continued building it until his dying day.

Dad taught me so much about life. He introduced me to music and showed me how to play the guitar and piano. He brought me into his office and helped me learn to use computers before most people even knew what they were. He instilled in me values, a sense of worth, honor, and courage. He took commitment to family and work very seriously. Dad was the hardest working person that I have ever known. He was also frank and insisted upon candid talking. Often he was brutally honest, and not everyone appreciated that, but you always knew that you would hear precisely what he was thinking. Dad was sincere and fair with his words. Rarely would he judge someone else. And, he would encourage me to give everyone the benefit of the doubt.

My favorite “Dad story” was also one of his favorites, even though it deeply embarrassed him. We’ve both told and laughed about this one a thousand times, so bear with me if you already know it ... I used to work with Dad at his land surveying company, Rodgers and Associates. And, I would often use his desk and computer. One day I was typing away at his desk when he came in and I had to give up the seat. What neither of us knew was that I had spilled a few Milk Duds out of my pocket and into his chair

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. Well ... Dad sat in them and didn't notice. He sat there for an hour or so working diligently. Finally, a client came in to meet with him and when he stood to greet the man, Dad found he was peeling himself out of his chair. His rosy cheeks and demeanor must have given away the fact that something was wrong, but Dad simply smiled and shook the guest's hand. Walking down the hall and to the Men's room with his brown-stained Khaki's must have been one of the most embarrassing things ever to happen to him. As furious as he was over this incident, Dad told me about it later that afternoon and he laughed at himself instead of scolding me. That was simply the kind of man that he was.

I used to see Dad occasionally reading the obituaries. When I asked why, he said, “I read them every day just to make sure I'm not in them.” He continued with, “That way I know I’m still alive.” As I read his obituary earlier this year, I imagined him looking over my shoulder and saying, “Oh shit...”

Since Dad's passing, I've been fortunate enough to hear from tons of folks who knew him, even friends from back in the 60's who have nothing but fond memories. He touched so many lives and inspired so many people. Most of what I've heard was how honorable Dad was and how he made their lives better and stronger. All were thankful for meeting and knowing him. Mostly I've heard how Dad's work ethic and principled beliefs rubbed off on them in a positive manner. That is the Dad that I knew and remembered. I’m proud to say, “That was my Dad!”

As I sat with my Dad and listened to his “death rattle” breathing, I knew that he would not be with us much longer. And, I was right, because he died that night. I'm honestly not sure what made me travel down to my parent's house that weekend, but I'm glad I did, because I was able to be with him in his last days. Odd as it may sound, I honestly believe that Dad was relieved to see me. Almost as if he succumbed to death with comfort, knowing that I was there. Hard to explain it, but it was a completion of sorts.

Dad carried a fire in his heart. A strong fire that could be felt by everyone around him. I miss him every day of my life, but I still feel that fire, inside of me ... I think that is because he passed it to me through his lessons and examples. Hopefully I make him proud as I work daily to strengthen and stoke that fire, in the hopes that one day my fire will be as large as his was.

Dad was also a humble man. He never tooted his own horn, even though he had plenty of reasons to. He would never have approved of me writing my thoughts and memories for all to read ... But, this is a healing process for me, and this is who I am. Fortunately, I know that the man I have become is directly in response to the way he raised and fathered me. So, despite his wishes to stay humble and quiet, I am standing on top of the highest place I know (the Internet) and shouting his praises!

I miss my father so much! I will always miss him! And—yes—Dad’s life was much more than just a dash!

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  1. V-thanks so much for putting into words so many others’ sentiments! Although I don’t have a “milk dud” story, I have some of my own that will always be with me. Good thoughts, happy heart, chuckles, that’s what my stories consist of! Missing him too.


  2. Good words, Vaughn. My dad has been gone for a while . . . I’m 64 . . . but there is still a hole in my heart where he belongs. Unfortunately, I think it will always be there . . . fortunately it isn’t as painful as it was when it was new.

  3. Vaughn – I met your Dad through Diana. He was a fine man. I am proud to have been his friend.

  4. Our screen saver flashes important pictures of our friends, family and memorable events. We see your dad’s wonderful smile at least twice a day. Some are with Diana. All have smiles on both their faces. We laugh at the wonderful and funny adventures they shared together and allowed us to laugh at the stories they told about them. Your tribute was wonderful. Hug your loved ones, we only have them for a brief lifetime and then, in a twinkle of an eye…our memories must sustain us. Thank God you have lovely ones!

  5. Lynn, Thank you for the kind words! It’s nice to see folks are still reading this nearly a year later.

    Jean & Bill, It’s wonderful to hear that you see Dad daily. I do too. You see I have his photo sitting in my den next to my PC monitor. I laugh often thinking about him as well. He sure had a cool sense of humor. And, a hilarious laugh! Thank you for the great comments.

    Thanks again!


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